Marriage Counseling in Philadelphia

If you are looking for marriage counseling in Philadelphia, we can help. With a bit of work, you can resolve some or all of your marriage issues. With 40-50% of U.S married couples getting divorced, there’s a real need for marriage counseling.

Rediscovering that spark that you and your spouse once had is crucial. Working with a trained therapist can help you to get that spark back. It can take a lot of work to regain that intimacy and trust that you once had. However, when the work is carried out in a safe environment it can make all the difference.

How a Marriage Counselor Can Help

Some adults have found that depression therapy is the same as or potentially more effective than some medications on their own. For some, a combination of therapy and medications work best. This is because you will have the opportunity to talk about how you’re feeling while taking steps to start feeling better.

A marriage counselor can help you to:

• Understand what you want from your marriage and ask for it without fear or shame
• Rediscover the mutual interests and spark that you once had
• Help you to support and listen to your spouse, even if the way they’re feeling isn’t congruent with your truth or experience
• Set limits with your spouse that are from a place of love rather than anger or fear
• Learn to express your appreciation for what they can offer you, even if you’re disappointed or hurt
• Accept your spouse’s feelings when they’re angry or hurt, without feeling the need to take responsibility for those feelings
• Encourage your spouse to emotionally evolve
• Disagree about things without it becoming ugly
• Feel more open to the opportunity of repairing the relationship

While this might seem like a lot of work, it is necessary if you wish to mend and improve your relationship with your husband or wife.

Kira Yakubov and her team are happy to work with mixed-sex or same-sex married couples who are newly married or who have been married for years.

Offering a personal marriage counseling service, Kira Yakubov and her team realize that every marriage is different. There is no specific or set-out way to help mend a marriage. Whether both people in the marriage are unhappy, or just one person is unhappy, there is help available.  

With the ability to teach you skills that can help you to have a healthy relationship, marriage counseling can make a difference. Showing you how to communicate with the one you love in a more open and honest way can help to save a marriage. However, if you have never experienced a healthy relationship, it can be hard to know how to develop the skills. This is where marriage counseling can prove to be a lifeline. Teaching you the skills you need to build and develop a healthy relationship can make a world of difference.

Do You Need Relationship Counseling or Couples Therapy?

If you are having difficulties within your relationship, you might need relationship counseling. If you have tried to deal with the issues yourself and you are struggling, you could find that relationship counseling is what you need.

Please note, your relationship does not need to be on the verge of ending for you to ask us to help you. It’s perfectly normal for anyone to ask for help with their relationship. In addition to this, your issue does not need to be huge for you to ask for help with it. We are here to help you whether there is something minor troubling you or you are having major relationship difficulties.

Some couples attend relationship counseling from time to time so that they can work on anything that might be troubling them. In addition to this, they are encouraged to look at their past experiences and deal with them in the hope that they can grow together.

If there is a chance that the relationship cannot be salvaged, our therapists will still work with you. This is because there is always an opportunity to work on your difficulties in an amicable way. You might also have the opportunity to learn from the relationship ensuring that you can make your future a much happier one. Please feel free to contact us whether you think your relationship can be saved or if you’re unsure. Sometimes another person’s perspective can make a world of difference, especially if that person is a trained psychologist. Take that risk for your relationship and for yourself.

Common Marriage Issues

Some of the most common marriage issues include:

• Anxiety and managing it – Whether it is your anxieties, your partner’s, or both parties’ anxieties.
• Communication between partners – This is often a contentious issue. Sometimes it’s a mere lack of communication that can make a relationship difficult. This is where we can come in and help you.
• Conflict and its resolutions – Resolving conflict or attempting to can be hard work. Let us give you the tools so you can deal with conflict in a new and potentially less harmful way.
• Lifestyle differences – People can still love each other even if they have different lifestyles. Kira can help you to identify the differences and the similarities. She can help you to bridge the gap between your differences, encouraging you to work together.
• Loss of connection between partners – Partners can occasionally lose their connection over time. We can help you to get that all-important connection back.
• Loss of intimacy between partners – After a while, you may not be as intimate with your partner as you were in the past. This is perfectly normal, however, we can help you deal with any issues and concerns that you might have. In addition to this, we can help you to work on your intimacy and feel closer to your partner, should you wish us to.
• Management of stress – Whether it’s work that’s causing stress or something else, you can learn how to manage it. You can also learn how to deal with stress that you may experience in the future and in a healthy way.
• Mismatched sex drive – Some couples have a mismatched sex drive. We can talk about this and how it affects you both. We can also help you to resolve the issues so you both feel heard and both of your needs are met.
• Major life changes –  Moving house, having a baby, or a change in career are major life changes. They can cause a lot of stress and uncertainty. When you talk about the changes openly, you start to deal with their impact. We can help you to work on the effects of these changes so you feel less stressed. You will also learn how to see and feel the benefits of major life changes.
• Personality differences – Two people whose personalities are different can enjoy a long, healthy relationship. Let us put those differences under a microscope so that you can understand the benefits of the differences. We can also help you to work together so that your personality differences do not clash and are less likely to become an issue in the future.

All of these issues need to be discussed and managed in a safe and sensitive way. We are here to help you talk openly and freely about those issues which could be troubling you. You can feel confident about opening up and talking about anything that is concerning you and affecting your relationship. If you don’t feel confident talking about everything in front of your partner yet, you might find our individual sessions useful.

About Our Relationship Counseling Sessions

Our relationship counseling sessions are here to help anyone in any relationship. This type of therapy is often taken up by people who hope to either strengthen their relationship or work on a particular issue.

Some of the most common topics that are addressed include:

• Anxiety management
• Communication
• Conflict resolution
• Conflict within the external family
• Differences in lifestyle
• Differences in personality
• Life changes such as having a baby, moving house, or a change in career
• Loss of connection
• Loss of intimacy
• Mismatched sex drive
• Stress management

Each of the issues that need to be addressed will be dealt with in a sensitive and safe manner. The first time you have a session with us, we will talk with you and your partner. We will do this so that we can get to see how you work together. This also gives you the opportunity to talk openly and honestly about what is concerning you. It might even be the first time you have spoken about your relationship difficulties. Do not worry, you can do this in a safe environment where you are asked to express how you’re feeling and how you want things to progress.

Your therapist will then see each of you individually. This is so that she can get to know you as an individual. The individual session will involve you speaking about your life history, family dynamics, personal experiences and how this may be impacting your relationship today. Again, the sessions will be conducted in a safe environment. You are welcome to talk about anything that is causing you concern. Your therapist will work with you to ensure that you know how to move forward in your relationship.

During these sessions, your therapist will help you to be open and honest about the progress you have made. In addition to this, you will have the opportunity to talk about what you want from the relationship.

Types of Therapy Offered

Every couple that meets Kira Yakubov has a different outlook on life, and different experiences. This means that the types of therapy that are offered also need to be different. For example, couple A might need a lot of therapy that deals with their anxiety. Couple B might need therapy to help them through their intimacy issues.

Our therapists offer a range of therapies, and can, therefore, apply them to every situation.

If you are a people-pleaser and you do what you can to keep your partner happy, they may help you examine your self-esteem. A therapist can also help you deal with any conflict you might be facing.

If you are a people-pleaser and you do what you can to keep your partner happy, therapy may help you examine your self-esteem. A therapist can also help you deal with any conflict you might be facing.

Issues we have already seen, therapy can help you with a range of topics, which can include:

• Anxiety management
• Communication
• Conflict resolution
• Conflict within the external family
• Differences in lifestyle
• Differences in personality
• Life changes such as having a baby, moving house, or a change in career
• Loss of connection
• Loss of intimacy
• Mismatched sex drive
• Stress management

Contact Us Today for a Marital Therapy Consultation

If you and your spouse are having marriage issues, the telehealth therapists at Heal Your Roots Wellness can help. If you would like to talk about your marriage in a safe environment that is free from judgment, please contact us today for a marital therapy consultation.