When one partner in a relationship has ADHD, it can be difficult for the relationship if the symptoms are not understood. The non-ADHD partner may feel like they are doing all the work in the relationship and repeating themselves over and over. The ADHD partner may feel like they are constantly being criticized for not doing enough and feel spoken down to.
Other symptoms that may impact the relationship is partners with ADHD may interrupt others or be easily distracted during conversations. These difficulties can lead to misunderstandings and conflict between partners.
In addition to communication issues, people with ADHD may also struggle with impulsivity, forgetfulness, completing tasks, and emotional regulation. This can lead to problems such as reckless spending, risky behavior, and emotional outbursts.
All of these factors can put stress on a relationship. It's important to note that they often feel that their partner just doesn't understand them and there is something wrong with them.
If you are in a relationship with someone who has ADHD, it is important to learn about how the disorder affects relationships. With understanding comes empathy, and with empathy comes a stronger relationship. This blog post will provide some professional insight into how ADHD can affect relationships.
Both people feel differently through these struggles, and being able to identify and validate these feelings is important in working together.
Here’s how the partner with ADHD may feel:
And here’s how the non-ADHD partner may feel:
When it comes to ADHD and relationships, there are a few key points to keep in mind. First, those with ADHD may have trouble staying on task or completing projects, which can be frustrating for their partners. Secondly, communication can be a challenge because those with ADHD may not always understand or remember what was said. Lastly, due to their impulsiveness and high energy levels, those with ADHD may often engage in risky behaviors that can put their partners at risk. If you are in a relationship with someone who has ADHD, it is important to understand these things and work together to create a plan that works for both of you.
If you are the non-ADHD partner:
If you are the ADHD partner:
It is important for both partners in an ADHD relationship to understand how the condition affects communication and daily life. Partners of those with ADHD often find themselves dealing with frustration as they try to communicate with someone who has trouble staying on task, remembering details, or following instructions. In addition, people with ADHD may have difficulty regulating their emotions, which can lead to outbursts or arguments. Empathy allows us to recognize that our partner may have been criticized for the same difficulties their whole lives and have developed shame around these parts of themselves.
The best first step is for both partners to learn more about ADHD, and their partner's specific subtype. The more knowledge we have, the better equipped we are at problem-solving together. Working as a team can help overcome these issues and feel more connected.
If you are the partner of someone with ADHD, it is important to be patient and understanding. Remember that your loved one is not being careless or forgetful because they don’t care or appreciate you; they simply struggle in different ways. Try not to take things personally, and instead focus on finding solutions together. Keep in mind that you are on the same team, so offer feedback - not criticism - and offer support when needed; communicate openly and often.
By being patient, empathetic, and understanding, you can make significant progress. With a little effort from both parties involved, ADHD need not stand in the way of a healthy and rewarding relationship.
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